My Top 5 80’s Movies

My Top 5 80’s Movies

Hello lovelies!

Recently I spent a really quiet weekend at home relaxing, and for my surprise The Princess Bride was on TV. I haven’t seen it in a while, so naturally I’ve stopped whatever else I was (not) doing and enjoyed the moment. The movie may be a few decades old, but it can still make me laugh. I love the romance, the sarcasm, the cinematography, and quick comebacks (I think the jokes are so clever!)

Then I started to make a mental list of all the 80’s movies I’ve seen that I would see again or recommend others to watch, even though I am a nineties’ baby.

Warning: Contain spoilers

So, without further ado, here are my top five 80’s movies of all time:

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1. Can’t Buy me Love

I’ve seen this movie for the first time a couple years ago, and boy, did I love it. It got me hooked from start to finish, and I thought that Patrick Dempsey’s acting, even though exaggerated at times, was extremely refreshing. I believed him to be that nerdy and bubbly character who just wants to be popular more than anything. I’ve seen a lot of movies with this actor, but overall (in my opinion) he plays the same type of character over and over again. So it was really nice to see how he started and how dynamic he was at a young age (when he wasn’t the sexy serious guy).

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2. Back to the Future

Oh Marty Mcfly, how much do I enjoy your adventures with time travel. But I must say, the first movie has always been my favorite. Him accidentally going back in the past, and almost ruining his parent’s entire relationship was so precious and fun to watch. The more he tried to make things right, the worse they got. But, thankfully everything turned out more than okay for him at the end. Go Marty! And I don’t even have to mention that one of my favorite’s band’s name comes from his last name Mcfly. That alone should make me love the movie (but honestly I liked way before I knew the band).

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3. The Breakfast Club

Well, not only the movie has an iconic ending that has been remade and celebrated through generations after it, but the depth and exploration of the angst of teenagers in High School was mind blowing. This entire movie happens during these five kids’ detention time (with only them and two school staff to support the story), and it is able to show you their distinct personalities and break cliches of people’s appearances. Who you seem to be in High School doesn’t necessarily is who you are. And sometimes someone who looks so different from you, may actually have more similarities than disparities. The movie makes you wonder whether these five kids will remain friends after this glorious and unique day. But who knows? Maybe they will go back to their daily lives. But for us, those hours were the truest and sincerest moments of these teenager’s High School years.

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4. The Princess Bride

But of course I wouldn’t miss the movie that started this whole post. The Princess Bride is one of those movies you must see. It’s light and quirky, and makes you laugh not only with the story, but about it (the movie constantly makes jokes about itself). You end up falling in love with Westley’s wit and his love for Buttercup (though I must admit, her character doesn’t agree with me much). Also, one of the most famous lines in movies’ history can’t be missed, when Inigo Montoya finally meets his father’s killer and says, “Hello. My name is Inigo Montoya. You killed my father. Prepare to die.” STRIKE ONE! Fun fact: Ben Barnes was inspired by Inigo’s accent to create his Prince Caspian character.

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5. Just One of the Guys.

Ok, so I’ve seen She’s the Man with Amanda Bynes many times, where she pretends to be her brother in order to convince her ex-boyfriend, and her previous coach that girls are as good as guys on soccer. However, I didn’t know there was an 80’s movie with a similar plot (seems like they are both loosely based on the same play by Shakespeare). In Just One of The Guys, the main character pretends to be a guy just so she can prove that her article for the school newspaper was rejected because she was a girl. The plot twist is when she finds out that it actually was because it wasn’t good enough (even as a guy). She becomes friends with this loser guy and ta-da starts falling in love with him. The whole experience as a guy inspires her to write a new article that ends up being published. Oh, and the reveal scene (where people find out she is a girl) is very much like in She’s the Man. I quite liked the movie, it was amusing, smart, and ahead of its time.

 

Did your favorite 80’s movie made the cut? If not, leave a comment below sharing your top choices.

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5 Things I learned from Acting School

5 Things I learned from Acting School

Hello everyone,

I went to acting school when I was only nineteen years old, in a completely different country, and had to re-start my life over there. It was a great experience, first time alone, in a country with different language, different culture, no parents, nor anyone to solve my problems. Let’s say it was a crucial time to shape me into the woman I am today. I have come to discover who I really am, because I had the time and permission to do so.

So here they are, the five things I learned in acting school that I will take with me for life: Ready? ACTION!

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  1. Engage with people, and learn to listen.

When someone (the cashier at the grocery store for example) asks you “How are you?” Really take time to answer. We usually say, “I’m fine, and you?” And thats it. Engage them on conversation. After one of my teacher told me that, I started doing this all the time. Eventually everyone knew me at my local Grocery Store because I always engaged them in conversation. It’s so automatic now that sometimes I don’t even realize I’m doing it. Take time to really know people, it will make a difference, and really LISTEN.

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     2. Fail, fail again, but fail better. 

I believe is one of the most important things for me to remember. One of my teachers used to say that if we felt like we failed at the scene, we should do it again, but do it better. If you failed the scene again, you should keep going, because each try would only be better than the last, and we would always learn something. This is so important to use in our daily lives, when applying for a new job, working out, or trying something you are afraid of. Just take a chance, and keep fighting. Failure is just one step away from success.

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  3. Write your experiences.

They always encouraged us to keep journals. We should write our experiences, write what we see, write about people we see in the street, write about anything, actually. When we write, we are doing a study of the Human psych, and in acting we need to understand humans. We need to know how different people feel, react, their objectives in life, etc… So, I’m really trying to work on writing more what I see.

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  4. Respect each other’s background.

In my class we had people from all over the world, with different ages, cultures, colors, languages, and background. We had to share some pretty personal things in order to learn how to trust each other (which could only make a scene better), and to be vulnerable. I got to learn great stories, as well as sad ones from so many people, and that taught me we shouldn’t judge someone based on what we think we know. We don’t know each other’s past and struggle. We can only be supportive of one another.

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      5. Do not compare yourself with others.

This one is a biggie for me, because I am terrible at it. We learned that we shouldn’t compare ourselves to others because everyone was different, with a different strength or talent. We could only compare ourselves with ourselves, because that was the only way we would see our true growth. If you compare where you are to where others are, you will end up frustrated. But if you stop to realize how much you improved, you will feel the fire to keep improving. That is a must for anything in life: health, body image, personal projects, work etc. Do not compare yourself with others. Only you can be the true measure of your growth. You will always be enough, because no one else can be a better you than you.

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What did you think of my 5 lessons from acting school? Make sure to leave a comment!

Poem Moment

Poem Moment

I was going through my journal and found an old poem I wrote two years ago. It made me realize how some things might seem that will destroy you, as if you wouldn’t be able to pass through it. But then, time passes and you are okay, and whole again. We need to remember that we don’t need to put our faith or happiness on people. They should be part of it, and grow from it, but they shouldn’t be the source of it. We need to learn how to be complete on our own, so people will come and share their “complete” with you, and more and more will be added to who you are.

With that being said, I am sharing the poem I wrote, because even if it’s not a part of who I am anymore, it was a part of me for quite some time. Some people might see themselves in the poem, or recognize feelings they are having. So, for those who do I say, “It’s okay, you will get through whatever is haunting your soul, and it won’t kill you. It will make you stronger.”

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To say okay, when you are not okay

To smile, when you want to cry

To pretend you don’t care, when you do

It’s all a mask, it’s all a lie

It’s a cry for help that you are failing to see

I’m hurting inside, how can it be?

That you neglect me when I’m near

Don’t try to find me when I disappear

But if I do, would you miss me?

Or shed a tear and move on quickly

When I would break if you ever left me. 

 

I didn’t break. I’m still here, and so are all of you.

Love,

Fefe

Writer’s Block

Writer’s Block

Hello peeps,

Long time no see.

It’s funny how easily we can get caught in the rush of life and forget to work on our personal projects, isn’t it?

Every week I set for myself the goal of sitting and working on my blog, and every week something else came up, something that it would be more important or more urgent, or let’s be honest, I was just tired and didn’t want to think. Who hasn’t felt that way, right?

Also, lately I haven’t been in touch with my creative side. In other words, I’ve been feeling a massive writer’s block, and haven’t been able to shake that feeling off.

I keep saying to myself, “don’t worry, you will write when you feel creative again.” But that just doesn’t happen. You know why? Because writing is a craft. It’s like a muscle that you have to keep exercising to get stronger, even on those days that you feel lazy and not wanting to go to the gym. So the best way to push past this block is to get back at exercising my writing muscle, which is what brings me here today.

I just need to remember to be patient with myself, because the strength and ability won’t come right away. So, today I just wanted to tell you that it’s okay to sometimes feel blocked, or uninspired, or set you personal projects aside for a while. As long as you don’t get stuck in that loop and don’t put yourself together to pull you out of it.

Take a breath, accept that this things happen, but don’t get used to the feeling, work you way back to focusing on you and your goals. And don’t forget, be patient.

Much love,

Fefe

1/4 of a Century

1/4 of a Century

Hello guys,

So on April 18th I turned 25, which means I’m one quarter of a century old. That’s right, I’m not on my early twenties anymore.

But, I’m glad I’m aging because I have been learning and growing so much, and like I always say, change is good.

For this special age, I’ve decided to create a bucket list of 25 things I must do on the year of my 25th birthday.

I’ve written down a wide range of things, from doing hang-gliding, to learning how to drive stick shift, to getting a tattoo. So far I have seven things completed, but I still have many more to finish.

It’s been fun so far, and the best part is that I’ve shared my list with my friends, so not only they help me complete my list, but also I have a commitment of finishing it because other people beside me know about my challenge.

I’ve been reading a book called The Speed of Trust by Stephen Covey, and he discusses how in order to be trusted we need to trust ourselves. And sometimes we mine our own trust by setting up goals and not accomplishing them, like for example when we set the alarm earlier to go workout but we wake up, turn it off, and just go back to sleep. This small act is making ourselves less trustworthy, and even worse, is making us stop trusting ourselves.

So, I encourage you to try doing the same thing. You know those things you always wanted to do but was always too lazy, too busy, or just forgot to do it? Write them down now and challenge yourself to complete them. See it as a mission and set a date for you to complete your list.

I bet you will feel more accomplished and empowered just like I have been feeling.

Peace always,

Fe.

“The Only One” Girl

“The Only One” Girl

Hi guys,

 

I’ve written many poems in my life, but never had the courage to show or post it for anyone to see, so in my new mantra of trying new things and taking risks, I’ve decided to share this little one.

It started coming to shape in my head in one of my many walks from the airplane to the baggage claim, while I was listening to Teddy Geiger’s song “For You I Will” and it sort of just came to life. Little by little I breathed more soul to it, and I was able to finish it tonight. So I hope you enjoy it and that maybe it touches you like it touched me.

“The Only One” Girl

By Fernanda Lemos

I’m the girl in a music video,

the one who walks around with distant eyes and a distracted smile.

A thousand worlds inhabit her mind,

but she can’t seem to fit into the one she lives in.

I’m the girl who people say that she should experience more of life,

but who, perhaps, just feels and sees life in a different perspective than everyone else.

I’m the girl in a portrait,

frozen in space and time as if she doesn’t belong here,

or there, nor anywhere.

I’m the girl in an adventure book,

strong and fierce, but not quite real,

not quite tangible, and somehow quite damaged.

I’m the girl whose eyes can scare you,

because they carry the weight of all the expectations her mouth can’t pronounce.

I’m the girl that tries to pretend she doesn’t believe in love,

but who secretly hurts with how the world seems to have forgotten all about the magic of it.

I’m the girl that cries alone in her bedroom about her loss,

but who you will see smiling and pretending to be okay,

because she refuses to look weak.

I’m the girl who feels as if she wasn’t good enough,

when you were more than enough for her.

As if she lacked a secret ingredient,

always blend, always overlooked.

I’m this girl,

I’m that girl,

I’m any girl,

But I’m never “the only one” girl.

Why Being in Love Means Being a Fool?

Why Being in Love Means Being a Fool?

I’ve been thinking about love lately, not just love but feelings in general. How many times I’ve seen friends being in love and hearing that they are a fool for it? And the more I think about it, the more terrified I become with the conclusion that people are so afraid of feeling something that they rather hurt someone else instead of being vulnerable and be hurt. Even worse: people are so self-centered that they can’t see outside their range.

I’m not talking about guys being jerks, or girls being shallow, or none of those typical things you might hear. I’m talking about people in general. About how one person will try everything to grab your attention, while you are after someone else, and that person is after someone else, so we never find an end to that circle.

In a world where girls fight the standards to scream their independency, guys have to learn more and more how to live and share the duties of a home, where people are so “connected” instantly and language barriers are broken, still we seem to drift more and more apart from one another. Why is that?

I feel like people are scared of wanting something. Even if they say “that’s how I want someone”, they might run away when that person comes popping in their lives, because they might not be ready for that. Or better yet, they might not  be ready to have someone who will have so much power over them, because knowing someone may hurt you is extremely scary. So we close ourselves up in our own world, gathering a list of lovers one right after the other, always having someone to massage our ego, so we don’t have to face the truth that one person might make you feel more than all those others.

We say we want something, but when we find it, we build walls up against it. Doesn’t make sense, right? I’m not saying that we should live like the romance books, where all is perfect and love is stronger than anything else. Those things are beautiful for the stories, but they are not real. Those people are not real, and no matter how many flaws a writer can give them, you can’t flush them out of the page.

No. I’m talking about people who will make you happy and laugh, who will disappoint you because you create certain expectations in your head, who will support you and fail you, who will fight you, and, sometimes, who will just be there, with none of these extreme feelings that you encounter in the pages of a novel.

Perhaps you will meet someone who will make you feel differently, and I pray that you have the courage to tell that person how you feel–which most of us lack to do. We just keep pretending that we don’t care until that person walks out of our life.

If not, you might just keep living life like a ghost, just bumping into the next person and the next, to keep pretending that you are strong or wanted.

I’m not saying that we are incomplete without someone else, not by far. I believe we all come to this life as a whole, and we can live, breathe, build a career, follow our dreams all on our own. What I’m saying is, maybe someone could be there with you, cheering you, challenging you, or helping you put your feet on the ground sometimes.

So my wish for you is to be weak and be a fool. But don’t be a fool with shut eyes and closed heart, because you might miss something or someone.